STOP!
Over-Explaining
Are you an over-explainer? It could be a sign of past trauma. Let's dive deeper into this and explore ways to heal and grow!
Over-explaining is a common response to trauma, and it can hinder our ability to communicate effectively and assert ourselves.
Here are 5 signs that you may be caught in the over-explaining trap:
1. Feeling blamed:
When someone asks you a simple question, you interpret it as an attack and feel the need to provide excessive clarification.
2. Defensiveness:
You constantly feel like your intentions are being questioned, leading you to become defensive as a way to protect yourself.
3. People-pleasing:
You take on the responsibility for other people’s emotions, always trying to fix their moods and ensure their happiness.
Understanding why this happens is crucial:
1. Childhood experiences: Constant criticism or control in your upbringing can make you feel the need to over-explain to avoid judgment or punishment.
2. Unpredictable environment: Growing up in an unpredictable environment teaches you to walk on eggshells, over-explaining as a defense mechanism to maintain safety.
3. Discouraged self-expression: Previous experiences where self-expression was discouraged or punished can lead to over-explaining as a means to protect yourself from potential harm.
Now, what can you do to break free and foster healing?
1. Prioritize self-love: Embrace self-care and prioritize your own needs and desires. You deserve love and kindness, both from yourself and others.
2. Set healthy boundaries: Learn to establish and enforce boundaries that protect your well-being and honor your authenticity.
3. Seek professional support: Consider working with an Inner Child therapist who can help you navigate past traumas, heal wounds, and reclaim your voice.
Remember, your voice matters, and you deserve to be heard without the need for excessive explanation. 🗣️💫